Change Host="192.168.5.99" with the remote IP allowed(this is of course more secure but also cumbersome if your IP changes). You could also have a single layer of protection that specifies the IP via firewall or both (of course both are far mor secure).
UPDATE user SET Host="192.168.5.99" where Host="localhost"
or for any/wildcard
UPDATE user SET Host="%" where Host="localhost&qu........
Use netstat with the -anpe option. The e option shows the inodes and I do not know if it will always work or if it was by fluke but I was dealing with dozens of SSHsessions and needed to know which session was related to which forward (the PIDs of the SSHand SSHD did not match etc...)
Notice the "59560675" and "59560762" those are almost identical, if you find two sets that are nearly identical except for the last 3 digits they may match (in my ca........